In one of her most candid interviews ever, actress Stella Damasus opened
up about her life, struggles, her first and second marriage & what we care
most about, her relationship with Daniel Adenimokun.
She claims she didn’t steal him.
Speaking
with Emma Emerson of Golden Icons, Stella Damasus opened up about her
relationship with Daniel. She said;
"Let me put it this
way. Let me help you hit the nail on the head. One of the comments I have seen
consistently, over and over again, is ‘Stella snatches somebody’s husband’,
‘Stella the husband snatcher’, which is what has been going on. And I had sworn
that I would never talk about it, or even listen or stress myself about this
thing but I have decided to do this now, so that I end this once and for all.
First of all, let me
paint a picture for you and you let me know what makes sense to you. When I
looked up the word snatch or steal, ehh, let’s go to the dictionary. It means,
forcefully taking something away from its original position. Forcefully. From
its original position to another position. Something that does not belong to
you. That’s what I gathered from the word snatch or steal.
So I looked at me,
Stella, and I wondered to myself, how is it possible to go to somebody’s home,
and take a man, and take his son, away from his home and say follow me. You are
a man, and according to their story, he is happily married inside his home.
With his family complete and I walk into that home, to forcefully take a man,
abled bodied man, and a kid, away from somebody’s hand and you are there
looking at me. How does that work?
Did they accuse me of
using voodoo? Yes or no? They said no. Okay, did I put a gun on anybody’s head
and remove somebody from somewhere? They said no. So logically, if people
actually sit down and think about it intelligently, how do you snatch somebody
from somebody and the person is there looking at you?
So when you see a man
who has settled ties with a woman and decides to move on with his life and you
feel that there is something in this man that you like and he likes you. I am not
a kid. I am 36 years old. I am not about to start hiding myself. I was waiting
for somebody to actually ask me this question, because all I have heard for the
past two, three years are rumours. They said, blogs said, this said. Nobody has
been bold enough to confront me and ask me. So I say, if I steal something from
somebody, and the person is really the owner of the thing, you come and ask me,
‘you took something from me, give me back’.
But nobody was able to
that. And I am like, if I meet an able bodied man that has left and moved on.
That is not even in the same house with whoever and is not doing anything with
whoever, and both parties have decided this thing is not going anywhere, and
they have gone their separate ways, why is it that it easier for the world to
blame the woman that the man has decided to end up with?
Why is it that it is
always that woman that scattered that home? The two people that did things that
nobody was there, nobody said something must have happened between this two
people but it is always somebody else that is the problem. And I always say, I
do not tolerate blaming anybody for your own problems. I have had problems.
After my late husband’s
death, I got married again and the marriage didn’t work. After eight (8)
months, it crashed. People didn’t hear much about it, why? We were both mature
to understand that we came together, we knew that the thing was not working,
instead of us to become enemies we will remain friends, let’s just let it go
quietly. And we let it go quietly. I didn’t blame anybody else for doing it, he
didn’t blame anybody else for doing it. So I am wondering, two people come
together they go their separate ways, this one meets somebody, all of a sudden,
it is that somebody that is the problem. Did anybody ever ask, what went wrong?
Why would a man pick up his son and walk away from his marriage?
Was there anytime
another woman was the problem until the man moved on with another woman? Nobody
brought up Stella’s name, then all of a sudden, ‘oh he’s moved on with somebody
else (snaps fingers), it must be her’. How? I am still waiting for somebody to
come with proof to say ‘oh when they were still in marriage, when they were
still in a house, you came and did this.’ So the reason why I don’t like
talking about it is that, there are some things I would say to you and you
would look at me like ‘oh wow’ but I don’t want to be derogatory, I don’t want
to tow the line that other people have towed by talking bad about people.
I would never do that
but the stories started coming. At first I ignored it, I just kept quiet, and
then it was all over the place, Google, blogs, and I am like, one day, one day,
I would tell my story. There’s a reason why I am respecting certain people,
respecting certain legal issues that are going on. So there might be some
things I may not hammer on, but whenever you hear this person snatched this
person’s, you will ask the person, the person that they said was the original
owner, what was the person doing when they were snatching the person from him
or her? I don’t get it. Do you understand?
So I look at it, I am
not ugly, I am not dumb. Of all the men in the world, I will now go and look
for somebody else’s own and say this is the one I want. If he didn’t come out
of it and say I want to be with you and you want to be with me, how? Why would
I come and grab…? Am I that bad looking? Am I that old?"
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